So, This past week a friend said they would call and we would spend some time together, he would call in about an hour. I said ok. I enjoy hanging with him. No, he is not my Boyfriend.
So an 1 1/2 goes by and I am starting feel slighted, I realized he is not coming by. I turn off the phone and go about my business. I am brothered, after all he wanted to hang out and called me. So I try not to think about it. I wake up feeling a little angry and I ask if he is with his truck. I know where he parks it. So I go over there and he is there. Oh, by the way he does text and apologize for not showing up. He fell asleep. Now, I know him well enough to realize that that is probably true. So, I go see him and he is on the phone, He sees me and gets out the truck with a smile on his face. I am not in the best of moods. I say something and then I leave. Not my best moment.
Anyway, I go back because I didn’t like the way I left. We talk a little and he explains he just plain fell asleep. We talk a little more and I leave.
What I realized later in the day, why I was bothered, (partly, because this has happened more then once) is that I believed him!!!! He was tired and he does just go to sleep in a second. He really was sorry.
We texted back and forth and I accepted his apology. I felt better about myself and was able to forgive myself. I was no longer upset with him. I actually was not really upset with him, I was upset with myself…I chose to believe that I would see him and hang out. We always have a good time together, I was “Disappointed”.
So you see, it really is about ourselves. My expectation / attachment caused me pain.
I am sure most of us have had this happen, especially if parents are divorced and one parent is picking you up and for some reason they don’t show and you are left hanging….This does not feel good and after a while (when it happens often) the anticipation and excitement of spending time with parent actually turns to sadness and hurt. So if you are a parent at least call and let them know in advance if possible. This does have lasting effects emotionally.
Hope this helps. All my Love. Angelina